Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy
Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy is a powerful modality that helps you learn to track the experiences that are happening beneath our conscious awareness. By staying present to the external and internal movements in the body, such as feelings, emotions, sensations, contractions and “attitudes” or postures … we gain so much more information than what is accessible through the thinking mind and the concepts we hold about ourselves and others.
Human connection and the formative experiences we receive as children form the basis of our emotional substructure, developing mind and sense of self. When there is dysfunction and abuse, the impact on later life is more obvious to see.
However, even when we grow up in loving environments with well intentioned parents, we ALL experience rupture and misattunement. As children, connection and love is so fundamental to our survival that we split off from parts of ourselves in order to maintain connection.
This splitting is so painful. A defenceless child is unable to understand, manage or digest the overwhelming feelings of the human body that come from rejection, misattunement, injustice, abuse and neglect. Without an adult to help us regulate our emotions, our bodies find ingenious ways of mitigating the pain.
In essence we split off from ourselves: we contract, dissociate, hold our breath, or modify our behaviour in a plethora of ways to help soothe or protect ourselves from the pain.
Bizarrely, regardless of the obvious injustice, we somehow blame ourselves. It’s that sense of wrongness, unworthiness and unlovability that is at the core of the intolerable feelings that we spend our lives not wanting to feel.
In therapy this is referred to as developmental trauma. In spirituality, the development of these sweet protective strategies is the ego and the inescapable suffering of being human.
In order to find our way back to wholeness we have to unearth the unique and creative ways we have disconnected from all of who we are.
Rather than a problem, this is a profoundly beautiful journey home to our essence, our Self and the dissolution of separateness and alienation from life itself.
These unconscious layers, however, cannot be navigated with the mind. Whilst it’s helpful to help us understand our behaviour and our pain, these roots of our experience lie beneath the realm of the mind in the body and the nervous system where they were established and remain hidden.
That’s why as much as we try, we keep finding ourselves repeating patterns over and over again in reactivity.
And why, regardless of the decades of therapy and meditation so many of us have done, our core feeling body remains unchanged. In fact, sometimes the intensity of our feeling body increases!
It’s here that we can turn towards the magnificent maps of Buddhism and Somatic Practices to help us navigate this unconscious terrain of the body.
Practice room is near Byron Bay (Ocean Shores).
As a Certified Hakomi Therapist, I offer individual session based predominantly on the Hakomi method, however, I also integrate Somatic Meditation, Complex Trauma approaches and Internal Family Systems Therapy.
1 hour = $140
First session is 1.5 hours = $170
I offer experiential couples therapy based on the “Hakomi Embodied and Aware Relationship Therapy” (H.E.A.R.T) model.
1 – 1.5 hours = $180
2 hours = $230
For more information about Hakomi, please visit the Hakomi Institute website.